Who Am I & What Do I Want? A 10 Point Self-Assessment

Who Am I & What Do I Want?

A 10 Point Self-Assessment Questionnaire

I am content and happy with my life; I consider myself blessed, however, I still aspire for something deeper and more meaningful in certain areas. And there are times when there are real issues to be considered, when real everyday problems arise – personally, financially, business-wise – and I know I need to change some things, to enhance myself in some ways. I put this together, for you, because I want you to be happy with yourself and your life; you absolutely deserve it and are entitled to live the life YOU want. Answering the following questions usually helps me know, if not what to change, at least where to start. I hope they will do the same for you.

This is the question of the ages. Sometimes it’s hard to figure out what you really want in your life; however, most of us know what we don’t want. If you’re having a hard time with this question, just take a sheet of paper and on the left side list the things you don’t want. When you’re done with that, on the right side of the paper list the complete opposite of what you wrote on the left side. Take a fresh sheet of paper and on the top write “What I Really Want” and re-write what you wrote on the right side of your list.

Consider whether the things you listed are things you really want, or whether you think you should want them. Do you want them because something else thinks you should have them, or because others will like you more, or because you want to please someone else? You should want them because YOU want them, because they will improve your life the way you want them to, not for any other reason.

Sometimes when there is so much happening around you, it’s hard to even consider that there could actually be a light at the end of the tunnel. Try to think of all the positive outcomes there could be to making the changes you ended up from answering the second question. Even if you don’t believe the positive outcome could happen for you, list it anyway – it’s the first step in coming to believe it.

There's always the easy way and the right way when it comes to doing the things you’re doing in your life. The “easy” way is usually to avoid arguments or criticism, or to make someone else happy; the “right” way is to make yourself happy, to make things the way you want them in your life. You’re a very unique and special person; you don’t have to be just like everyone else. If you’re doing something the “easy” way and you’re not comfortable with it, change it! Yes, it might be difficult to do, but think of how much you’ll feel when you’re doing whatever it is the “right” way.

I know this can be a difficult thing to do. Doing things for yourself, taking care of yourself, can sometimes make you feel guilty. Maybe you’ve been taught to believe that others have to come to first, that taking care of yourself or making some time just for you, is selfish – let me assure you it’s not! If you can’t take care of yourself, if you can’t do or change things to make yourself happy, you can’t truly take care of someone else or make someone else happy.

You don’t have to change everything all at once; you don’t even to change anything big – just take one little step, do one little thing just for you – and start there.

It's another difficult question I know. Do you like what you’re doing – being a mom or dad, at your job, living in your neighborhood, etc.? If not, why not and what can you do to change it? If you are happy with where you’re at, what can you do to make it even better?

Don’t even answer that one. Who cares?! A more important question is “Am I appealing to myself?” Do YOU like the way you look, the way you behave? If you’re not “appealing” to yourself, it’s a pretty safe bet you won’t be appealing to anyone else either. So, do YOU like your hair? Do YOU like your wardrobe? Are YOU comfortable with your weight? If not, change them but do it for YOU, not so you’ll attract someone else.

The simple answer is for everyone is that you can have as much or as little as you want. There’s no limit except for the one you put on it. How much of want you get though really depends on how much you’re willing to work for it. There is no limit to how much you have, true; however, there is also no “free ride”. You have to be willing to make the steps to get what you want. It doesn’t mean you have to work “hard”, or try to do the impossible; it does mean you can’t just sit on your behind and think about what you want.

What motivates you; what makes you get up and get going? What encourages you to go after the things you want in life, to make the changes you need or want to make? It's an answer you have to find out for yourself, and it doesn’t matter if it motivates anyone else or not.

So? What is it? What really makes you happy? Remember, self-improvement is not just about the physical or philosophical change you have to undergo; it's about doing something or going after something that you really want.